Something Old, Something New... Honoring as You Say I Do

What will you carry with you on your wedding day?

Your grandmother's veil? A new dress all your style? A lipstick borrowed from your bridesmaid? Something secret and blue under your dress for your groom?

I love this tradition, not because I'm superstitious, but because I think it represents the link between the past, present, and future that is so evident at weddings in the relationships between the bride and groom and their loved ones. So evident in the relationships that we carry with us for life, with the people whom we care the most about in this world.

With a grandmother who can't travel; with a mom who is so happy to see you in your dress; with a friend who knows your childhood firsthand; and with a future husband who is waiting for you at the end of the aisle, ready to embrace your future together. While this day is for you and about you and your new spouse, it is also for and about them. The people who helped you get here, the people who helped you get ready to be a wife.


Looking for what to carry with you, both tangibly and in your heart, to honor your lifelong relationships? Whether you want to go totally traditional and carry small tokens yourself, or you want to try something totally new, I have a few ideas! I'd love to sit down for coffee with you to hear your love story, the one that involves your whole entourage of supporters, and to help you brainstorm how you will honor your own past, present, and future in a unique, beautiful, and meaningful way.

Until then, here are two fun lists to get you started!

A Little More Traditional

Borrow a veil from a loved one
Carry a handkerchief with a blue embroidery
Wear borrowed heirloom jewelry
Blue shoes!
Rosary, locket, or other family history token wrapped around bridal bouquet


A Little Less Traditional

For a small affair, find a set of new-to-you dishes that you love (bonus if they're blue!), and share your first meal on them with your wedding guests

Incorporate Grandma's old, unsalvageable wedding dress into the decor (lace tablecloth on the cake table, perhaps)

A hand-lettered thank you card to your guests, showcasing relatives' wedding pictures, and a description of the beauty and inspiriation of their marriages